“Cuties” (and Its Supporters) Failed Black Girls

There’s been a lot of controversy over the Netflix film Cuties, with it being categorized by some as encouraging pedophilia and others as a Black feminist critique of the sexualization of girls, without much in between. If I’m being honest, my personal response to the film upon initially seeing the trailer was disgust. However, manyContinue reading ““Cuties” (and Its Supporters) Failed Black Girls”

I’m Not a Perfect Abolitionist, and I’m Okay With That

I believe in prison abolition. I am not a perfect abolitionist. I believe that it is not only ideal but essential to our survival as Black people that we defund police, close prisons, and implement practices within our communities that are divorced from carceral systems. And while I am still struggling with what that entails,Continue reading “I’m Not a Perfect Abolitionist, and I’m Okay With That”

“Service With A Smile” Is Racism and Misogyny

A few weeks ago, I went grocery shopping with my daughter and as our cashier, a young black woman, scanned and bagged our groceries, I was struck by the fact that she seemed absolutely miserable. It reminded me of my days working as a retail cashier and server and how demeaning and demoralizing most ofContinue reading ““Service With A Smile” Is Racism and Misogyny”

We Are Failing Black Boys

I keep seeing this argument being made that black boys are being “coddled” and that this is why many of them grow up to struggle as men. What confuses me most about this argument is that it’s most often used in conversations about black men who have criminal records, histories of violence, low education andContinue reading “We Are Failing Black Boys”

Black Girls Deserve Love That Doesn’t Hurt and It Starts With Us

“My mother was the first person to teach me that love looks like violence…” I was awakened to being pulled from my bed by my hair and dragged from my room to the kitchen. I was thrown to the grown and hit in my face repeatedly. I had no idea what was happening or why.Continue reading “Black Girls Deserve Love That Doesn’t Hurt and It Starts With Us”